When I was in grade school, I went to a memory improvement workshop. The leader taught us four important elements to improving memory skills. They are positive, present tense, repetition, and high emotion.
They are hard to write without yelling. The workshop presenter drove it home by having the entire auditorium yelling (high emotion) the four concepts over and over (repetition). ”POSITIVE, PRESENT TENSE, REPETITION, HIGH EMOTION!” brings me right back into that room. It’s been almost 30 years.
“Thank You”s feed the world.
Being appreciated infuses joy into our body, boosts our spirits, and makes us willing and energized to do more and be more. Appreciation is the food of the soul.
You can call it many different names; acknowledgment, validation, appreciation, worthiness, love, kindness…But they all are the same. Giving and receiving these is how we heal. It sustains all our efforts. It is a reflection of love and helps us love ourself.
People are in such pain. And they feel so alone in it.
I know they are not alone. I’ll prove it. I am sure some of you can relate to some of these feelings. You. You are not alone!
Did you ever feel…
…like not answering the question “how are you?” since you can’t put the feelings to words, or you don’t think anyone would understand, or it is not worth their time?
…that it would be worse if you shared, because if no one understood, it would feel even lonelier?
…that someone was walking all over you and if you spoke up you’d come across as overreacting? Since this was not their “intention”, they feel like they did nothing wrong. So you hold the scream in. Continue Reading →
Did you ever say, “I don’t even know who I am”?
What does this mean when we say this? Do we only have one identity? And our life goal is to find it? As if when we feel this way, whichever way we thought before we must have been wrong about.
I don’t think so.
Today I am pleased to have a guest post by Galen Pearl of 10 Steps to FInding Your Happy Place and Staying There. I have been reading her blog for close to a year and have appreciated her honesty and compassion for herself and others. Her pearls of wisdom are never short of luster. Today she is talking about feelings…
“Feelings, whoa whoa whoa, feelings….”
Feelings, Roger Whittaker
I Am Not Angry!
Years ago, I was a very uptight person. I didn’t see myself that way. I saw myself as being in control, of myself and of, well, everything else. I never got upset, never cried, never asked for help or let anyone see if I was struggling. Of course, I never struggled. Thinking back, I never really laughed, either, not a deep belly laugh.
I had a friend who was short on tact, but always told the truth as she saw it. She observed that I was an angry person, very angry. “Seething with rage” is how she described it, along with “barely contained,” and “always on the brink of exploding.”
How did I respond to her assessment? “I am not angry!” Continue Reading →
A few more thoughts on “Need”… (See Thursdays post A Question of Need)
Many people have neediness anxiety: AKA “worry about being too needy.” Being “too needy” is generally frowned upon in our individualistic culture. And when we (like appropriate, regular human beings) desire some help or company, we mistakenly think something is way wrong with us.
This is ridiculous!
Need. People throw around this word all the time.
I need… You need to… I may need…. Do you think I need….?
Sometimes it is innocuous enough–when we don’t mean it literally and the person we are talking to knows this–but other times it means a great deal. This, I think, is where it can be dangerous. So I have tried consciously to remove it from my vocabulary. Continue Reading →
Ever feel like you are going backwards?
Someone wrote this on my Facebook page:
After two good days I can’t stop crying today. It feels like I’m back to how I was feeling before. Those two days were brilliant. Today I feel scared it won’t come back! What do I do for myself?
This is the 9th in 10 Things to do in 2012.
The concept of universal oneness is sometimes hard to wrap your brain around. We grew up with us/them, win/lose mentality. This is called dual thinking and it is the cause of so many of our problems. We feel separate from other people and this has us up to all sorts of antics: getting angry, feeling hurt, seeing injustice, not belonging, hating, fearing, acting mean, but most of all, has us feeling desperately, completely, utterly alone in the world. Even in a crowded room. Continue Reading →