Crisis: A Time Of Danger; A Time Of Opportunity

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Crisis: A Time Of Danger; A Time Of Opportunity

April 16, 2013 Read 17 comments and add your own

The loneliness in any crisis can be the worst part. I am grateful that crisis brings with it opportunity to come together. To show compassion, love and strength. We can do and be exponentially more in collaboration than we ever can be alone.

We see the nation coming together in the face of tragedy in Boston. Sending prayers, money, and donating blood. Facebook is plastered with heartened messages of people seeing the helpers coming forth so prevalent from the first moment. Bridget says it well in her post last night on Twinisms: Love Always Wins. What will this tragedy give you an opportunity to do (or to be)? What (or who) supports you to do this? Continue Reading →

Everything Belongs, Everyone Belongs

April 1, 2013 Read 43 comments and add your own

*Everything Belongs by Richard Rohr is an excellent read. He says that everything is divine. Everything, equally.

When I said Friday to include everyone, I really meant INCLUDE EVERYONE. Not “leave some people out.”

Facebook profile pictures that showed support for same-sex marriages.

If we are all connected, then what hurts someone else, hurts all of us. Being left out hurts. It is lonely. If people in power are afraid of losing their power and this fear creates an “us-them” mentality. To have an “us” that is OK, they think they need to have a “them” that is not. This always excludes some one.

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How Do You Know You Are Happy?

March 25, 2013 Read 33 comments and add your own

Why is it that people know sadness more than happiness? Why do the negative stories of our lives stand out so much more prominently in our minds than the good stuff? Why do we hear all of the no’s and take the yes’s in stride barely registering them?

When we learn that emotional pain is a state of mind, why isn’t that good news? Why do we go right to judgment, either of self: “If I can’t change this, what is wrong with me?” or judgement of others: “They must not understand how bad it is.” And let that stick us to the negative place even more.

Last night someone said to me, “It is going to be hard.” I said “Why?” He said, “I don’t know, I just made that up in my head.”

Yeah, you did. Who knows how it is going to be? How do you think that will effect you to think it is hard? What if you go through the whole event saying “This is hard, this is hard.” Could fun even find you in that state of mind? Continue Reading →

Amp Your Spirit

February 7, 2013 Read 21 comments and add your own

This week a client of mine told me that listening to music, “Amped his spirit.” This phrasing lingered in my head and I feel hopelessly in love with it. Today I share with you a video that I have watched countless times and each time it amps my spirit.

Hope it amps your spirit!

It features Amanda from Kind Over Matter. I wrote a guest post for her last summer: Kindness Comes From A Heart Without Fear.

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Begin With A Beginner’s Mind

January 31, 2013 Read 31 comments and add your own

There are three ways to start the day:

“This day is going to be awful.”

“This day is going to be great.”

and

“I don’t know what today’s going to be like and what it may mean.”

Beginning with a beginner’s mind is a method taught in Zen Buddhism. It is meant to strip the meanings our monkey minds put on everything that happens to us. Did you ever notice that we tend to jump to conclusions? And these conclusions make a huge difference in how we feel and how we act. Continue Reading →

Your Personal Invitation To Heal

January 13, 2013 Read 7 comments and add your own

Why do people need a personal invitation to heal?

“Moved by the force of love fragments of the world, we seek out one another so that a world may be.”

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin Continue Reading →

Speak From The Heart!

January 10, 2013 Read 25 comments and add your own

If you do nothing else in 2013, please know that it is time to speak from the heart. For me, not much is more important. It is time for us to get out of our minds, where competition, blame and fear run our lives and into our bodies that follow the flow of nature. And know how to love.

Photo credit: Mirall

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Life Is Precious

December 28, 2012 Read 33 comments and add your own

Some days the preciousness of life beams at you like beacon. At those time we walk so closely between the edges of life and death that what is important becomes clearer. And what is not becomes inconsequential. Emotions abound and our heart fly open.

Yesterday was one of those days. It begun at 6 AM with a text announcing the passing of a beautiful woman and friend. Her incredible, patient and loving daughters ministered and guided her gently through the end of a long and arduous illness. (She guided them, too)

“She just passed.”

“She is in heaven.”

They held her and held each other with open hearts and minds. Continue Reading →

We Have Been Created To Love and Be Loved

December 10, 2012 Read 29 comments and add your own

Humans are social creatures, we hang around each other, paying attention to what each other is up to. We touch, we play, we communicate, we share. We know how to have fun.

We love.

I have been thinking of this lately. And then, today, I read this quotation by Mother Theresa and said “Yes!” out loud.

We have been created to love…

“Each time anyone comes into contact with us, they must become different and be better people because of having met us. We must radiate God’s love. We must know that we have been created for greater things, not just to be a number in the world, not just to go for diplomas and degrees, this work and that work. We have been created in order to love and be loved.

Love does not measure…it just gives.”

Mother Theresa

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Self Forgiveness: There is no risk

November 29, 2012 Read 36 comments and add your own

Self forgiveness! Dont let your struggle become your identity

Self Forgiveness: You need only ask

Self forgiveness often feels out of reach. We are entirely too hard on ourselves. Or we take ourselves way too seriously! Still, one of the biggest challenges in my life is Self Blame. I know I am not alone.

We feel like we deserve blame and shame, yet we feel like we don’t deserve it in the same breath. Many of us go through life playing this blame game: “Is it me? Is it them?” In a way, that is how the story of blame stays so strong, by discombobulating us. In a confused vacillating state of defense and admonishment, we are more vulnerable and subservient to the wiles of shame and guilt. Continue Reading →

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