I had a friend walking a beautiful spiritual journey. One day she told me that she was working on giving up preferences. This fascinated me and I think of this exercise often, especially when something has upset me. She wasn’t doing it in a hopeless way, she wasn’t giving up on pleasure. Quite the contrary. She was allowing herself not to be displeasured by not liking something “that way.” Or wishing for something to “go differently.” And in this letting go of preferences, she was more free to embrace all the lovely things in her life. And she did.
We spend our lives searching for the quick fix to all our problems, while the answer is right under our nose. Teasing us again and again with its obviousness once we remember, till our foreheads are red from smacking it. Continue Reading →