I talk much about taking action in life and acknowledge that we all take action towards a conscious purpose. To illustrate this today I share the skills and knowledges document created at the Reclaiming Your Soul Retreat last month.
All of these skills were experienced, named, and described by the participants. It needs no introduction.
Skills In Breaking The Cycle Of Abuse
We are people who have chosen to participate to the Reclaiming Your Soul: Healing From Sexual Abuse and Sexual Assault Retreat in April 2013. Continue Reading…
How do they do that?
Having worked with so many people who have undergone unspeakable trauma, I’ve heard stories of amazing survival skills. It is surprising what we can endure and survive. I think many of us agree that we can’t imagine what it was like to be kept as prisoners in a house for 10, or almost 10, years. We let our minds go there for just a moment, it becomes overwhelming and we skirt away.
We know that so many people who have walked this earth endured horror beyond our worst dreams and within that space, figured out how to live the unlivable. Survive 17 days in a crumbled factory. Survive a concentration camp. Emerge whole and full of light after being sexually, emotionally, or physically abused. Keep alive during combat.
Just wanting to be the first to wish you all Happy Mother’s Day!
And I am talking to anyone, of any gender, who have raised children or not. Everyone is included because we all have some mothering skills at our disposal that we use to care for our loved ones and to care for ourselves. Or how else would we surivive?
What better way to celebrate mother’s day is there than celebrating our Mother? Spring is marvelous! Through the flowers and fresh greenery we are reminded of the bounty of the earth. The sun, tree blossoms, bright green grass, and long days lighten our souls after the cold, dark winter. Everywhere I look it is breathtaking!
The loneliness in any crisis can be the worst part. I am grateful that crisis brings with it opportunity to come together. To show compassion, love and strength. We can do and be exponentially more in collaboration than we ever can be alone.
We see the nation coming together in the face of tragedy in Boston. Sending prayers, money, and donating blood. Facebook is plastered with heartened messages of people seeing the helpers coming forth so prevalent from the first moment. Bridget says it well in her post last night on Twinisms: Love Always Wins. What will this tragedy give you an opportunity to do (or to be)? What (or who) supports you to do this? Continue Reading…
*Everything Belongs by Richard Rohr is an excellent read. He says that everything is divine. Everything, equally.
When I said Friday to include everyone, I really meant INCLUDE EVERYONE. Not “leave some people out.”
Facebook profile pictures that showed support for same-sex marriages.
If we are all connected, then what hurts someone else, hurts all of us. Being left out hurts. It is lonely. If people in power are afraid of losing their power and this fear creates an “us-them” mentality. To have an “us” that is OK, they think they need to have a “them” that is not. This always excludes some one.
For many reasons, I am feeling a huge weight off this week. I think it is because Spring has sprung. The worst of the winter is behind us. And this winter seemed like a cold and heavy one. With so much on my plate, it didn’t allow for my usual daily walks in the woods which help me face the darkness and cold.
There was also lots of grieving among my close friends and community. For all of them, the Spring will bring more good memories and more hope that love is still present and did not go anywhere.
Plus my counseling business has been in transition, (I am still counseling full-time, but the structure of the office changed). Finally the deconstruction of the old way is complete. Now it is time to build anew. My helper has been sick for a few months and now there is good news and returned strength. I am so happy she is OK. Worry for her was heavy on my heart. And not just because having her back next week means less paperwork for me!
Just Sunday morning I woke up to three national news stories of rape.
It is not because rape is more prevalent. It is because girls and women, wrapped in their communities, are coming forward. Saying this is not OK. The community support is what makes a difference. It is most difficult for a woman to break the silence alone.
When someone you love is in pain, you look for ways to be helpful.
When we love someone so much, it seems harder to see them hurting than to feel hurt ourselves. I find this especially true with my children. I’d gladly take their pain away even if it means I’d feel it stronger. In a way, I am feeling it because I love them but I don’t stay here because besides it doesn’t help them much.
Pain is Love
It plagues us all. It makes us feel embarrassed, humiliated, undeserving, unworthy and small. Guilt feels worse than awful which immobilizes us so we get stuck in this miserable place.
We all make mistakes and bad choices sometimes. Mostly it is accidental and unintentional. Or the lesser of two evils. This does not make you a bad person. Not in the least. It means you are human.
Guilt, if not used to restore, and then let go, can only contaminate.