When someone you love is in pain, you look for ways to be helpful.
When we love someone so much, it seems harder to see them hurting than to feel hurt ourselves. I find this especially true with my children. I’d gladly take their pain away even if it means I’d feel it stronger. In a way, I am feeling it because I love them but I don’t stay here because besides it doesn’t help them much.
Pain is Love
Why do people need a personal invitation to heal?
“Moved by the force of love fragments of the world, we seek out one another so that a world may be.”
Pierre Teilhard de Chardin Continue Reading…
If you do nothing else in 2013, please know that it is time to speak from the heart. For me, not much is more important. It is time for us to get out of our minds, where competition, blame and fear run our lives and into our bodies that follow the flow of nature. And know how to love.
“Let me not pray to be sheltered from dangers, but to be fearless in facing them. Let me not beg for the stilling of my pain, but for the heart to conquer it.” ~ Rabindranath Tagore
Finding balance this week may be tricky with all the activity going on. Still tons of people reading and writing about the tragedy in Connecticut, some people stressing over making the holidays special, and many more just trying to survive them after a difficult year of loss or tribulation.
What helps one person make sense of awful, may not be what another needs to hear. In a recent chakras workshop, the presenter told a story about a guru who told one student one thing and the next student the opposite. A third student had overheard both and asked the teacher why he was inconsistent. The teacher said that he taught what each student needed. “One was too far right, and I had to tell him to go left. The other was too far left and I had to tell him to go right in order to be balanced.”
Humans are social creatures, we hang around each other, paying attention to what each other is up to. We touch, we play, we communicate, we share. We know how to have fun.
I have been thinking of this lately. And then, today, I read this quotation by Mother Theresa and said “Yes!” out loud.
We have been created to love…
“Each time anyone comes into contact with us, they must become different and be better people because of having met us. We must radiate God’s love. We must know that we have been created for greater things, not just to be a number in the world, not just to go for diplomas and degrees, this work and that work. We have been created in order to love and be loved.
Love does not measure…it just gives.”
Live in the moment
How many ways are there to heal? I guess it depends on who you ask. If you asked me, I would say,
“7, no, 5, no, probably 4, actually a million… but really, they are all one way.”
So there are a million different healing modalities, I hear about a new one at least every day. Each claim to be the answer. Some seem cockamamie, some intrigue me. But don’t people realize that they are variations of the same theme? There are (to me) obvious similarities in ones that work. They each include the concepts below. Try any of them you feel called to, but see if you can recognize these within. Continue Reading…
Self Forgiveness: You need only ask
Self forgiveness often feels out of reach. We are entirely too hard on ourselves. Or we take ourselves way too seriously! Still, one of the biggest challenges in my life is Self Blame. I know I am not alone.
We feel like we deserve blame and shame, yet we feel like we don’t deserve it in the same breath. Many of us go through life playing this blame game: “Is it me? Is it them?” In a way, that is how the story of blame stays so strong, by discombobulating us. In a confused vacillating state of defense and admonishment, we are more vulnerable and subservient to the wiles of shame and guilt. Continue Reading…
Flora Bowley Temple Lillies
I thank you so much for reading here every week. If you feel like thanking me, I would welcome you to do me a huge favor.
I have been planning to improve my site for a while and looking for some artwork that can speak for me before making changes. I found that in Flora Bowley. On Monday, you fell in love with her, too.
In addition to visual changes, my plan is to improve my title and tag lines. This is a BIG decision and I will benefit from help making it. And so I am asking you all. (My own personal focus group.)
You know how people say there are only two emotions: love vs fear?
Well, when you have listened to people talk about their life as long as I have, this concept becomes clear.
Love vs Fear
Guilt, anxiety, worry, doubt, unworthiness, victim mentality, and shame: All fear.
Joy, peace, compassion, gratitude, kindness, generosity, trust, forgiveness, and connection: All love.
Love vs fear. Continue Reading…