It plagues us all. It makes us feel embarrassed, humiliated, undeserving, unworthy and small. Guilt feels worse than awful which immobilizes us so we get stuck in this miserable place.
We all make mistakes and bad choices sometimes. Mostly it is accidental and unintentional. Or the lesser of two evils. This does not make you a bad person. Not in the least. It means you are human.
There are people who feel much more guilt that they deserve. They haven’t done anything wrong to warrant this. Yet, they feel it in the most painfully anyway. Then they punish themselves constantly. Either by staying miserable because they don’t deserve to heal. (My guest post at Wounded Warrior) Or by literally punishing their body. Or by staying closed off in relationships, etc.
What is guilt and why do we have it?
Guilt is a human emotion that helps us evaluate our actions. If life were simple, guilt would arise only when we do something against our morals- for example something dishonest or that hurt another person. We’d feel guilt, and this would help us make a decision. To restore what we had done, and/or to do it differently the next time. Once the decision is made, the guilt has done its job and can go. Yes, you heard that right. It can go. It is no longer needed. Guilt’s job is to prompt us to act.
That is all.
But in today’s day and age, for some reason we allow guilt to stay. We invite it to live with us and it hangs over us like a heavy, scratchy blanket of pain and suffering. Even though we took action 50 million times, and convinced ourselves it is forgiveable. It is not enough, we still hold the guilt like its our top priority. As if we were bad if we didn’t. And, man, does it block us from so much!
The Sprititus Christi prison outreach, that houses men and women when they are released from prison greets their new guests by saying, “Follow this new way, or we will gladly refund your misery.” (The new way being knowing you are worthy and good.)
It is hard to see our own light if guilt is in our way. It is hard to find joy, when you are blind to it. We have to let the guilt go. We really don’t need it. (Really don’t.)
Guilt has us judging ourselves and judging other people too. We have to let ourselves be where we are and let others be where they are. We have to let the judgments go.
We’ve all done things that are forgiveable. It is time to forgive ourselves and move on to more joy. It is time to take off that blanket, walk on in life lighter and freer. It is time.
I’m ready. Who is with me?
People who have been abused or raped are plagued by guilt and shame, even though they have done nothing wrong. We are going to help them walk free of this during the retreat. We’d love to have you, and you deserve it! Reclaiming Your Soul Retreat. Healing From Sexual Abuse and Seuxal Assault.