Some people have had some hard holidays. They have experienced difficulties that the rest of us cannot imagine. Unfortunately, these experiences create a not-so-nice holiday story. And this not-so nice holiday story affects us in many ways. It can exasperate us, give us despair, make us resent the holidays, make us feel anxious or depressed and or suffer in other countless ways. But even if our holiday story makes us feel broken, I have good news: we are only broken in that story.
We can give ourselves the best present today by staying in the present. In the present, we can create a new holiday story. And the best part we can put all of our favorite things in this new story (i.e., love, joy, caring, connection). We can take some action along with this new story, by acting on these favorite things or noticing that we are already acting on them: call an old friend, write a thank you note, donate money, share a hug.
That broken person in the old holiday story is only you if you keep it as your story. You, right now, in this moment are not that you in that old holiday story. You can reinvent yourself and your holiday. You can ask yourself: